Marriage

When are you having a baby? When is the next one coming along? This question has me fired up these days. Because this question causes too much pain for too many people I love and care about. And I get asked this ALL the time. By well-meaning, curious people that I genuinely like. It's often just "casual conversation." But you need to know - this topic is NOT casual conversation. In one question, you are asking a woman about: Her relationship with...

I'm doing my best. I'm trying to care for my child the best I know how. Aren't we all? I'm trying to raise him well, make informed decisions, love him to the very ends of my human limits. And somehow it's not enough. And too much. All at once. The comments started the day he came home from the hospital. Or, more truthfully, the day I found out I was pregnant. At first, I appreciated different perspectives and anything off-colour just rolled off my back....

Here it is. The nitty-gritty, nakedness of how we try to be wise with money day-to-day. This wraps up a 3-part series on how sharing finances makes our marriage stronger. If you missed the first two, catch up with; How Sharing a Bank Account Makes Your Marriage Stronger and How to Enjoy Budgeting. Why does money management even matter in your marriage? Because it's one of the top 10 reasons why couples get divorced, according to Huffington Post last fall. You could almost conclude that half...

I've been there. You've been there. I was on my first-ever solo vacation in the east coast. This was going to be a super cheap trip because I was going to camp all the way. I didn't really budget, or create any plan for that matter... I just went. Of course I wanted to hit a seafood spot or two in every province.. and camping wasn't quite as cheap as I expected. I pull my borrowed, black Toyota up to a gas station on a sunny day. I fill up my car to the...

You work hard for the money you make. At least, most of the time. Yes? Maybe you're getting married. Or you are married. Or you're thinking about it. But you want to keep your finances separate. After all, what you make is yours and what your partner makes is theirs. Yes? Plus, you want the freedom to buy what you want. Who wants to "ask" their spouse if they can buy something. Are we all 13 again?? Actually – we've realized that...

  For most of my 20's I would pride myself on being independent. I didn't need a man to start my life, to be financially stable, to have my own place or to be secure in who I was. In fact, that's still true... and I still need look to God for those things. In the world's eyes, I wanted to be an independent woman who could work hard, build stuff, haul stuff and fix stuff. And I was proud of that. Then I got married and...

Yep. We go to counselling. I spent 10 years in the dating world searching for and imagining my perfect husband. Justin spent 3 years married to someone else before he married me. And he’s never casually dated. Ever. (how we ended up together is a whole other story for another day.) Needless to say, we each bring our own history and relational dynamics to our marriage. So there we are in a counselling session. We sit awkwardly holding hands on faded floral couches with our McDonald’s...